Can someone take me to Ibiza please? When I take a look at the past year and how life has changed since the pandemic, I’m shocked. Im shook. I’m in a state of “ did this really happen to us?” I know you can relate to me on this. It’s been a pretty challenging yet eye opening time to say the least.
But… as a child of God. As a firm believer, I tend to see the blessings in chaos. Despite many unfortunate deaths, the loss of jobs, homes, etc, taking a look at life and the unseen due to this pandemic has shifted and changed many of our lives for the better!
Many of us are now business owners, ministry leaders, creators, influencers, and more! Prior to the pandemic I was apart of the rat race. Working 40 hours a week at a job where I was miserable and underpaid, while giving my business little to no attention. The pandemic has forced me to evaluate my life in ways that truthfully, were uncomfortable. Kristen you aren’t living your purpose. Kristen you’re being undervalued. You’re being underpaid. Kristen you are just surviving. Have you had to face such truth and reality?
Now I want you to dig deep. I want you to think about your life, your worth, your belief in God, your values, and overall quality in life. Does it match the life you’ve always wanted? I want you to dig deep and get real. It’s never too late to start over.
I’m proud to say at 33 I’m now a full time entrepreneur and business owner. Yes it’s been a journey, yes it took sheer faith and hard work but it’s worth it. I want a life of quality do you? Jump and don’t look back!
So thats your homework. Do a self assessment and think about this article and ask yourself what type of life you’d like to live.
As a certified life coach, author, and ministry leader, I would like to invite you to book a session with me. You’ve got this!
Happy new year and happy January! Welcome back. We have missed you all! We are truly excited to be back before you all with some great content for the new year!
So it’s 2021 and we are three days in. Are you feeling the shift? When that ball dropped did something magical happen? I know many of us felt the opposite right? When that countdown began and after that ball dropped, after that brief moment of excitement reality set in. Reality as in– we are still being hammered by a deadly virus, we are still dealing with many injustices and a controversial election, and last but not least that sad stimulus check!
With that being said, I know it all seems like nothing has changed and that we are still carrying out some 2020 wounds and wrongdoings but can I ask you a question, what God do you serve?! I know the God that I serve, He is a way maker and a promise Keeper! My God!!
When I feel like all is lost, I just nestle in and surrender to the Lord and he makes my path straight. He soothes my wounds and provides my every need. I need you to get to that space and NOW!! Don’t let the darkness in this world cause you to miss out on what God has placed before you.
God said for this next season, and for this year he is delivering on his promises but you have got to water the soil. You have got to work that land like Ruth. Hard work pays off. Having faith and taking chances pays off. We cannot expect different results with the same tactics. We cannot expect growth and fruitfulness if we do not water the soil. The soil has to be fertile. The soil has to be built off of the word of God
“Who and what is in your soil?”
As we press into this new month, I want you to think about the soil that is before you, be it the soil for your business, your ministry, your marriage. Is the soil drizzled with God’s word? Is it being watered properly? How can you work the land for better growth and fruitfulness!
Let’s kick 2021 in the butt and have the best year ever. Remember people have it worse. Some didn’t make it. You did! You are still standing. You are still here. Shift your focus, trust God, water your land, and see the results!
Mrs. Lory, it’s not recommend that you have anymore children based on the radiologist report.
“Say that again Doc!!!”
Those were the words that rolled off my tongue as my OBGYN read medical reports from my second pregnancy.
“Yes, due to the amount of scarring from both your c-sections, it’s not recommended that you have anymore children!”
Hearing that news made me sink deep into the examination chair. It felt like I hit the bottom of a black abyss. The words kept tumbling around my brain, over and over! It’s not recommended, it’s not recommended!
“Mrs. Lory, I’m recommending preconception counseling, just in case you want more children!”
I left that office stunned and in tears. I picked up my cellphone and I told my spouse the news as the tears came flowing down my face!
“Listen, your health is the most important thing, and I know we said that if we worked things out, we would have more kids. But your life is more important!”
Hearing him say those words were both comforting, yet sad. But It wasn’t that it was impossible to try, but that it wasn’t recommended….
I had to sit alone with God on this one. I was upset! I was confused and my woman card felt as if it had been taken away. Why God? Why me?
During a night of praying God began to minister to me. After feeling what felt like an overflow of his deep love, he began to tell me some things.
“Kristen, you know that all things good and bad work together for my perfect will in your life right?”
“Yes lord I know!”
“Think about your life, think about some of the health issues you’ve been having lately. Perhaps you received some answers as to why periods are so painful?”
Suddenly, it was as if firecrackers went off in my brain. Well Ain’t that something? God used what seemed like a moment of sadness and failure to expose some underlying health concerns, which then prompted me to want to take care of my health.
Are you in a place in your life where you need to handle something?
Have you been neglecting your body? Your spouse? Your family? Your purpose?
Sometimes, God will use the bad news to expose, correct, and realign us. He chastens those he loves. It doesn’t always feel good. It doesn’t always make sense, But God’s plans are to prosper us and not to harm us.
I’ve got some huge decisions to make I tell ya! But–when it comes down to it, not only has this pushed me to want to take care of my body and seek more answers concerning my body, I’m also content, grateful, overjoyed, and in love with our God. His love is endless and his mercies are new every morning! What’s there to be upset about, after all he’s done for me? God simply told me to press on!
There are women who can’t even conceive. There are families who have lost children. I can’t and I won’t be selfish! I’m grateful that I was able to have two beautiful children! I will press on!
Where are you today? What have you been holding onto?
Are you at a turning point in your life right now? Is God telling you to press on? No matter your problem, just know that it could always be worse and that we serve a mighty God.
I have plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future~ Jeremiah 29:11
Those were the words I kept hearing over and over again in my spirit as I spent time with God. “ Progress & Finesse!” I kept asking Myself, what does He mean?
Let’s rewind to over a month ago! Let me paint the picture for you. My job had become a place of toxic vitriol. I had become the things I despised the most. Gossip, slander, unprofessionalism, and exhaustion had become my new normal, and the Christian leader that everyone knows and looks to for guidance was suddenly gone.
My health had taken a dip for the worse and I had found myself sick, drained, and in pain from minor illnesses that had been plaguing me for years.
My finances had become so dry to the point where I was allowing it to lead and guide my judgment.
My relationship status which had been in separation mode for over a year, went into reverse and I decided to reunite with my spouse only to find myself more drained and more confused than ever.
The ministry had taken some hits when I decided to take a break and remove myself from the rat race that YouTube creates, losing subscribers like nobody’s business!
This was my new and sudden normal. After three years of pushing and leading a ministry, relocating to a new residence, and taking care of my bills and finances, I was right back to square one. I was slumming from the bottom. I was desperate for God’s guidance.
So I assume you are wondering, “!what happened?” I’ll tell you what happened. I removed God from his role as head chief in my life. I became distracted. I was distracted by shiny things and numbers. And while he was testing me and pushing me, instead of keeping him first, I tried to forge ahead in uncharted territory, where I had no covering and no clear direction.
“God are you angry with me? Is this my punishment? “
That was what I asked myself over and over again as I laid down on my bed and cried.
“I need you Kristen!”
What? God, did you just say you need me? I heard that still and subtle voice clear as day in my head. I also heard ” keep going!” And suddenly those thoughts of ” I’m a failure,” left my mind.
God told me that I was right where he needed me to be. He told me that I had to take a step back in order to fully move forward. He told me that while I thought I was failing miserably, he was behind the scenes moving things around for my good and for his perfect will.
A great bishop once said that life goes on. Despite what happens good or bad life goes on. So I took that advice and decided to get back up. Are you in a place in your life right now where God is telling you to get back up? Maybe you took a wrong turn? Maybe you made a mistake? Whatever the sin, regardless of your mistakes, God is telling you to GET BACK UP!
Fast forward to a month later and I’m back to being me. I was blessed with a new job, My health has taken a turn for the better. I’m running again, I’m living in God’s love and scripture everyday, and the ministry is progressing forward. See—progress and finesse!
This new level that God has brought me to might not be the end all be all because I want more. However, on this current level and in this season God is telling me to perfect this level before He can take me to the next. Showing him consistency, healthiness, stewardship, surrender, and obedience mixed with faith is what he is requiring!
” what is God asking you to progress and finesse in this season?”
Regardless of your answer or season, just know that you are not alone and that God is a God of Grace and Mercy!
Lord, let your Will be done on earth as it is in Heaven. ~Matthew 6:10
Are you waiting for Boaz? Do you feel like this is your marriage season? Before we start planning that wedding and picking out weddings gowns, let’s start with knowing our individual season.
Before you rush to that next prophetic word on marriage, think about where you are right now? Are you healed? Do you know the Lord’s voice? Are you financially stable? Are you healthy on all levels, and do you know your purpose?
There are some fundamental questions we need to explore before we can think about our kingdom spouses. This does not just apply to your personal life but it can apply to any area where we are expecting God to move. Are you ready to serve in a ministry? Are you ready to launch your business idea? Are you ready to leave that job? God will always provide provision for whatever he has purposed for you to avoid disaster.
Many of us want marriage! Apostle Paul gives us a lot of instructions on marriage. Marriage is a gift, a covenant, and something that pleases God.
However, marriage is not for everybody! Apostle Paul also talks about the options to marry. If you can remain single and enjoy being single do so and keep your focus on the Lord. But if you must marry it is better to be married than to burn with passion. Apostle Paul tells us that when we choose to marry we concern ourselves with things of this world, but when we remain single, our concerns are of God and the church and that’s perhaps the best way to be!
(Hence single and serving)
But for those of us who God has called to be wife and mother, there are some important fundamentals we must adhere to before we reach for the ring.
For the month of June we will be talking about serving while being single. We will talk all things serving God, serving others, allowing seasons for Growth, knowing our purpose and so much more.
Please study the book of 1 Corinthians!
Grab a pen and journal and begin to write out the season you believe God has you in. Are you in a season of preparing? Are you in a season of healing and deliverance? Our goal is to get you through your current season and prepared for your purpose and ultimately your kingdom marriage.
Your assignment for the week!
1. Get your journal and write out the season you believe God has you in. Along with studying 1 Corinthians!
2. Write down three questions to ask God regarding your current season.
3. What areas do you need to grow in? What have you learned from this current season in your life?
4. How can you downsize and remove mental, physical and spiritual clutter.
We will be sharing our thoughts and having a live Q&A Sunday noon time via Facebook live. We can’t wait to read what you come up with. Please make time to join us.
If you need any assistance or prayer Please email us
Hi sweet sister! I’m here to tell you that it’s not over! Whatever battles you’ve been facing, whatever trials and tribulations you’ve been up against, will not have victory over you. We serve an on time and mighty God, who’s waiting to embrace you with welcoming arms.
“The LORD waits for you to come to him so he can show you his love and compassion. For the LORD is a faithful God. Blessed are those who wait for him to help them”
~ Isaiah 30:18
I just had to start with that! I’ve been on a fast for a few days now, and the results have been amazing. We don’t fast for man or religion, we simply and carefully fast for our father. We fast to beat our flesh. We fast for God to expose and uproot the hidden things. We fast to drawer closer to Him. We fast for renewal and growth. We fast for revelation. How often do you fast?
So we fasted and petitioned God about this and he answered our prayers.
It seems like everywhere I look, many of us are struggling with something. Be it sickness, relationships, finances, and an overall quality of life. But why God? I know many of you wonder, why me? How is it that I serve a mighty God and yet my life sucks and has nothing to show for it?
Well, I had that same mentality not too long ago as I chronicled through my separation, all while trying to start over simultaneously. I thought those very same thoughts until God began to deal with me. First of all, He told me that in life things are going to happen. Trials and testing are going to come, because we reside on an earth where the enemy is constantly seeking to devour. God also told me that in this life as a Christian we are going to suffer. We are automatic targets for the enemy. Lastly, God told me that although these things are true, if we let Him, if we completely surrender, He can rebuild our lives. Sounds good right?
I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, the hopper, the destroyer, and the cutter, my great army, which I sent among you. “You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied, and praise the name of theLordyour God, who has dealt wondrously with you. And my people shall never again be put to shame.
So this is where it gets interesting! Once God revealed these things to me, I instantly knew I was game. However, wanting something and actually going through the process to get it are two completely different things, if you know what I mean? This process of rebuilding is not for the faint of hearts. This process will require a level of strength, energy, commitment, and faith you’ve never had before.
Still interested? When I said yes to God regarding this rebuilding process, the first thing He told me to do was trust Him and then let everything go! (everything God, even my purse collection?) Everything, plus or minus a couple of bags! ( Now I can do that Lord!) but it was uncomfortable and hard, to say the least. Letting go of a life that was so comfortable, yet fruitless, was so hard to do but I did it. After letting go, God told me to undergo deliverance. ( Say some prayers over my family bloodline, denounce any dealings with the occult, any unrepentant sins, close any open doors that would give the enemy access to my life) this process was not instant, but gradual as God slowly dealt with me and dissected the many layers of hurt, guilt, and shame the enemy and others placed over me throughout the years.
For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
~2 Corinthians 10:3-5
Still there? After saying yes, letting go, and seeking deliverance, my purpose and identity in Christ became the theme as He showed me who I was in Him. He began to place people in front of me, as He molded me and shaped me for this new life and identity. Although I still had a long road ahead of me, I began to see little changes in my life and fruit that was undeniably God.
Work the field girl! After discovering my identity and purpose in Christ, I began to work the field. He told me to go for it. Experiment with a ministry and be a disciple. So I did just that. I started doing videos, I started posting inspirational things on social media, I put together events and I wrote a book on Finding your purpose. Available on Amazon.
Although things were still in progress and I was in a place of transition, I could feel this love and freedom in Christ I had never felt before. I still had many decisions to make at this point, after the releasing of my first book. However, I was hungry for more. As the warfare raged on around me, as friends left my side, and as things required deeper levels of faith, I knew I was almost there.
Finally, after almost three years of this ironing process, God told me the rebuilding was almost done. He told me to hold on and to let Him finish His good work and I did! And just like that, I arrived! The most important work was the inner work. We can’t receive anything from God or from others without proper healing to properly receive it. So after My internal began to Match my external it was finally time to embrace my new life in Christ. When I wake up and I feel the peace within, when I feel the peace of having my own home, a job, a passion and ministry I really love, and being a mom to two lovely children, I can’t help but think about how worth it, the process of rebuilding was.
We only get one life ladies! Your skin will never be as soft as it is today. Your hair will continue to slowly grey. Our kids will get older. Things will happen in life, good and bad. We will have different moments to help others. But regardless, life is short and precious and we will all face God the day of judgment, and be hit with that question of “ what did you do in this life?” What will you say on that day? Will the list that God has for you be long and full of many beautiful stories? Testimonies of how you helped others? Sacrifice? Taking chances? Living your full life, a life that God always wanted? Or will it be the opposite?
The choice is yours. If you let God rebuild you’re life now, and with no limits, and no fighting, I promise you, you won’t regret it! On the day of judgement, your list will be full, full of fruit and God will be smiling at all of your accomplishments and the fact that you took a chance despite all the pain and setbacks you’ve endured. You simply allowed Him to rebuild your life!
Being single is hard! Actually it kinda sucks! Especially on days like Valentine’s Day or holidays in general. As a soon to be “ former wife,” I can honestly admit, that I’m not looking forward to being single again. Although I have been separated and living apart from my ex for some time now, the reality still hasn’t hit me, that I’m starting all over again!
Going through a separation is like losing a loved one and enduring the mourning process that follows. Although the marriage ended, my feelings and the life that we built and the family we created, had to catch up, adjust and evolve! I spent many days and nights at first crying in the shower, debating if whether or not I made the right choice or if God was angry with me because He “ hates divorce!” I spent a couple of months researching the topic of divorce and separation and whether or not it would land me in hell. There were plenty of sleepless nights where I held onto my children, as I prayed to God for strength. Sometimes that’s what we have to do. We have to dig deep in the trenches and hold onto to what we have whether it’s a pillow, a blanket, the Bible, or perhaps the arms of a parent and in my case it was my faith and my children.
When I was married, that pressure to be married with the white picket fence was off of my back. Forget the terrible fights, the fact that we rushed, and had little in common, the pressure was off and that was all that mattered. Everybody wants to be Social media happy. Every body wants to look the part through pictures and posts, but what does your union look like when the lenses are off?
I have always believed that marriage is important. I always thought the choice was ours and that as long as we did things right, God was alright with our choices. Yes God gives us free will, however I believe, just like every area in our lives he wants to help us make the best choices. We can have something that’s simply alright, something good, or something amazing! God wants us to have His best for us. Something amazing! Not perfect but a pairing that God could only bring together making the hard times a little more bearable.
When waiting for God’s best, there will be sacrifice and your patience will be tested. The enemy will send many counterfeits. You’ll be tested on how much you value yourself and what you’ll be willing to accept. But most importantly, God will test you to see if you’ll put Him first. If you’ll marry Him first. If you’ll allow healing. If you’ll allow stretching. These are all uncomfortable words that nobody wants to hear when everybody is having babies and getting married, but with the marriage rates today and just knowing how much my father knows and loves me, I’m willing to make the sacrifice. Are you?
So what can you do while you wait?
Grow more intimate with God
Allow Him to heal you from past truama
Allow yourself time to get over your last situation
Do something you’ve always wanted to do
Take care of your body
Spend time with family and friend
Spend each day practicing gratitude and contentment